Upcoming at UUVerdugo

THIS FRIDAY, AUGUST 23

UUVERDUGO MOVIE NIGHT: "KELLY & CAL"


Join screenwriter (and UUVerdugo member) Amy Starbin as she introduces her 2014 film "Kelly & Cal," starring Juliette Lewis. Starbin, who recently wrapped principal photography on her directorial debut, "Los Aliens," talks Hollywood meeting upstate New York in this sweet, funny, and transgressive 2014 film.

Kelly, a punk-rocker turned suburban mom, is nostalgic for a life she can no longer have and uncertain of a future she doesn't yet fit in. Seventeen-year-old Cal is frustrated at his lack of control over the hand he's been dealt. When the two strike up an unlikely friendship, it's the perfect spark needed to thrust them both back to life.

Screening begins at 7 p.m./Rated R

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SUNDAY, AUGUST 25

Sunday Service: The Sanctity of Sex Ed
Guest Minister: Emmalinda MacLean

 Unitarian Universalists are pioneers in comprehensive sexuality education, offering “Our Whole Lives” classes that flip the script on “traditional” sex ed—focusing on values like self-worth, respect, healthy relationships, responsibility, and justice.  Emmalinda MacLean, a lifelong Unitarian Universalist who proudly graduated from the Our Whole Lives program as a 7th grader, believes religiously that accurate, inclusive, respectful conversations are the antidote to the toxic messages about sex that permeate our culture today.

10:30 a.m.

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April 2018

Dear Friends,

 

"We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all."

This quote from Eleanor Roosevelt was, when I first read it, a decades-old splash of cold water. On its face it says so much about the things that thwart our natural tendencies toward doing good — that our efforts won't be appreciated. 

But it also countenances so many daily inequalities in our lives which may or may not have different contemporary names, from donor fatigue to atychiphobia (Fear of Failure: Why try at all if my goals are unreachable?) to co-dependence.

In the world of personal news platforms and social commentary, we might put too much spin on our caring because we are prepared either for apathy or for a negative, knee-jerk reaction. The backlash against the impressive and fierce Parkland students comes to mind as an example of our culture's destructive antipathy toward simply showing we care, even if our opinions are different. 

In our UU community setting, that quote has a bearing on our occasional rifts that arise among a group of spirited, educated people, each of whom enjoys the simple pleasure of knowing they're right.

We are losing our minister in a few months, and my predecessor in this position also resigned. Two good, able, educated, spirited people. My goal in this gig, the goal of the Board, and the goal of you, the congregation of UUVerdugo is to recommit ourselves to Right Relations with each other, to throw open our doors, to draw seekers to us, and to seek people out. It is very simply the means of our survival. 

Today, ask yourself: Are these differences of opinion insurmountable? Is there a bridge I can build? What is my fear of not being agreed with?

Like that guy Eleanor was married to said, "We have nothing to fear but fear itself." And we certainly should not be fearful of caring too much. I personally will not point and laugh at you if I see you caring too much. 

Marty Barrett, Board President

 

 

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